The Soul, Conflict and Harmony
Gen 2:7 – And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul. Breath means vital breath, divine inspiration, intellect. An animal, soul, spirit, the lower nature. The soul is the seat of the feelings, desires, affections, passions and appetites. (The human soul in so far as it is so constituted that by the right use of the aids offered it by God it can attain its highest end and secure eternal blessedness.) In marriage the two become one, and that oneness is in the body, flesh and soul. The soul is the seat of desires, affections, passions and appetites and every soul has a prevailing disposition, meaning prevailing tendencies in mood, inclination, and temperamental makeup, and the tendency of something to act in a certain manner under given circumstances. (In this relationship there must be an absolute surrender of our souls desires, affections, passions and appetites to Jesus Christ.) Without such the success of any relationship, especially in marriage, will not succeed as well as our relationship with God. This is why those in marriage, as speaking to Christians, who is without love “agape”, “sacrificially given” by each in the marriage, the marriage will not survive the nature of the soul within each. This is progressed by sin, which is in the flesh and will negatively effect the well being of the marriage and soul of each. Agape means affection or benevolence; specially a love-feast, good-will, the love of men to men; the love of men toward God, the love of God toward men, the love of God toward Christ, and the love of Christ toward men. Agape, the love-feasts, expresses and fosters mutual love and affections, which use to be held by Christians before the celebration of the Lord’s supper.
1 Thess 1:3 – Remembering without ceasing your work of faith, and labour of love, and patience of hope in our Lord Jesus Christ, in the sight of God and our Father. Labor of love is a long arduous labor (intense labor united with trouble, toil) that is meant to bring our own death enabling the Holy Spirit to mortify the deeds of the flesh. Gen 2:24 – Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Some might ask why the marriage? Marriage (between a man and a woman) is the greatest bond God ever created on earth. A person in a successful marriage have experience and wisdom to make the marriage work due to the sacrifice each makes in the marriage. Cleave means to impinge, cling or adhere, figuratively, to catch by pursuit, abide fast, cleave (fast together), follow close (hard after), to be joined (together), keep (fast), overtake, pursue hard, or stick. Note that there is an adhering, abiding fast together. However, there is also impinging upon, pursuit, overtake and pursue hard. (Impinge means to advance beyond the usual limit.) Without a strong pursuit in any relationship to maintain harmony in the relationship it will fail, this comes only when the love of God is active in each. Matt 19:5-6 – And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6) Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Here the word cling means “to join fast together, to glue, cement,” to fasten together and is primarily said of metals and other materials.
John 13:34-35 – A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. 35) By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another. The word love here is the Greek word “agapao” meaning a labor of love, which will become very arduous if the persons aren’t willing to make personal sacrifices for one another. All relationships end in failure without a pursuit of harmony in the relations found upon love of God established in each partner or partners.
John 15:16-17 – Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you, and ordained you, that ye should go and bring forth fruit, and that your fruit should remain: that whatsoever ye shall ask of the Father in my name, he may give it you. 17) These things I command you, that ye love one another. The love of God is directly connected to the fruit that is produced out of our lives. One another means reduplicated; each other, or mutual love, together as one, and creates and atmosphere of mutual love and respect for one another, reduplicating and growing the kingdom of God. In other words, if the love of God is prevalent in a marriage with children, the children will be much better equipped to walk in the same love as the grow up, duplicated the life of the parents within themselves. John 15:13 – Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends; especially in the church and in relationship with one another, the life of the body and the church depend upon this, just as a marriage of a man and a woman depend on this. There must be a diligent pursuit of this in both.